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    jmcgahan wrote on JennyMiller's wall

    Hi,
    Thanks for answering my question. I appreciate your insight. I certainly can realte to the the "twilight zone." I just now finished chemo and I am getting prepared for radiation. My body is tired. My mind...tired too. My company....well it needs me be at my best. When I sit at my desk I just don't know what to do ....its different now....everything is different. Did you work or are you working during your journey?
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    Jennifer

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    Hello. Thank you for taking the time to respond to my question. I guess my life is so different now, this has really changed everything. I don't feel like the same person and sitting in my office at my desk is almost surreal. I am not all the way better, I start radiation next week and have 8 weeks of everyday treatment. I guess somehow I thought once chemo was over that I would be able to be "normal," but I am not sure that will ever be again. I hear people talk about a "new normal," and I completely get it now.

    Thanks again, stay strong.
    Jennifer

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      erie94

      So true! this "new normal" is only understood by those who have either lived it or are sensitive to it. People who are afraid to speak of life threatening issues, you will find will avoid the issue, hence will avoid you. But, stay close to those who are considerate of your (post)condition(s).
      Fear can give you strength....

      about 4 years ago
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    jmcgahan asked a questionBreast Cancer

    Any survivors who ran a small business before diagnosis and had difficulty returning to work?

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      On our trip to Maine, we visited a Catholic Shop. The owner was a very nice lady who was a breast cancer survivor. We shared stories and some tears. She said that she continued to run her shop throughout treatment. Some days were hard but she just went with the flow. I also know a gal from our community who works in the Court System who went to work every day. I babysit my great grandchildren one day a week and I never missed a day -- but I had my husband with me and he was a great help on those harder days. However, I believe that it depends on the individual person -- the mind may want to do it but your body may not let you. It may be difficult to return to work even when you are feeling better. I felt like I was in a "twilight zone" -- then, when treatment ended and I entered my former life, the reality set in again. I was not sure if I fit in -- I sure do look at things differently. I feel that Cancer makes you a different person and you will never be that other person again. I have found that the "positive" attitude is the best tool.

      about 4 years ago
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      Dear jmcgahan:
      I have been in business for myself for thirty years. During my active treatment which took a year and ended last month, I did reduce my working hours and took things easy when I needed to. Fortunately, my business is such that I could do that by simply not taking on as many cases as I normally would. Unfortunately, being in business for myself, I had no vacation time, disability benefits, etc. so I had to continue to work. Somehow the expenses had to get paid! Now that I am pretty well recovered and over most side effects, I find it hard to get back into the full-time routine. Some of my priorities have shifted - and that's a good thing. I still take time for myself - to rest, to exercise, and simply to smell the roses, as they say. I have learned that life is not all about work and it's okay to work less and enjoy more. A little less money just means I don't have to buy all the stuff that I don't need anyway. I have learned that lesson, too - I'd rather outlive my stuff than accumulate more things that will outlast me!
      Fight On,
      Attypatty

      about 4 years ago
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      Hi jmcgahan - I am/was a massage therapist working from home when I was diagnosed 8 yrs ago. My income took a big hit while I took time off to heal myself from the surgery but I was able to work through all of the other treatment, I just scaled it back a bit. I would suggest that if you are having difficulty returning to work, perhaps you are ready for a change. I know that for myself, I felt like - WELL I GOT THROUGH THAT, NOW WHAT DO I DO? I felt like I'd reached a crossroads where I could do absolutely anything I wanted to do and I wanted it to be amazing. So I've been working on creating that - and it's been wonderful.

      about 4 years ago