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    joedy1950 asked a questionRare Cancers

    thank you all for you're answers. I will however say, that no amount of judgement on anyones lifestyle is a dangerouse responce,

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      Harry

      I tend to think that not being judgemental is best. Maybe there are exceptions, but I don't see that criticizing someone else's choice of religion, diet, life partner, etc. helps us cope with cancer.

      As for a 15 year old who smokes pot and is "paranoid" about his cancer returning, let's look at the "paranoia" first. Is a fear that cancer might come back really paranoid? I think most of us have that fear to a greater or lesser degree. It is entirely rational. It is important to deal with the fear and get it under control, but calling someone paranoid for having the fear does little good. Helping them cope with the fear is better.

      And then there is the pot. OK, it is illegal in many states and only vaguely legal in others. I don't think this is the proper forum to discuss the legal aspects of pot. Many people report that it helps them with pain and with certain medical conditions (glaucoma for example). I don't know why the kid was smoking pot or the specific legal situation where he lives, but it is possible that pot has an effect on his fears. So, I think it reasonable to suggest he discuss his fears and, depending on the legal situation he faces, his use of pot with his doctor. Yes, smoking anything is not good for you. I don't see how pot smoke is any less carcinogenic than tobacco smoke.

      But, condemning the kid for using pot is probably counterproductive. It's a good way to turn the kid off and ensure that he does nothing to improve his life or his health. You can make gentle suggestions. Suggest that he find another way to control pain, etc. if that is why he smokes it. But, demanding that he quit immediately does no good. Maybe he should quit immediately, but a gentle approach will be more likely to succeed.

      over 4 years ago
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      Carol-Charlie

      Joedy, I've been on WhatNext for some time now, and have never seen a judgemental posting by others. This cancer forum seems to be filled with the most caring individuals who really really care about helping others by sharing their experiences and thoughts on fighting cancer. If you read something different, perhaps you could post privately to that person, and nicely make a suggestion of how it could have been handled better. :)

      over 4 years ago
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      geekling

      It is understood that you don't feel well. We often misunderstand and see through pain and discomfort dirtied glasses when we view the world through clouds and shock waves. I don't believe anyone intended to make any judgements of you. None of us know you at all well enough to be able to do that even if we were so pompous as to try.

      I don't know what set you off and I don't much care about a fictitious 15 year old pot smoking kid who is entitled to smoke weed (if he can get it and stay out of jail) if he perceives it as helpful to him. We are, each and all, entitled to help ourselves as we see fit.

      Perhaps there is something in your life which is disturbing you and something someone inadvertently wrote set you to thinking about it? I don't know. Only you know about that.

      Take some deep breaths. Take a few more and relax. One more big in ... and out. Do at least six, please. Now what was it you are upset about?

      Best wishes for recovered good health.

      over 4 years ago
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    joedy1950 asked a questionRare Cancers

    I have been diagnosed as, 100% cured through surgical extraction. I am not getting any follow-up treatment. However, looking over my ct scan

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      SueRae1

      I always read my scan reports, Scans pick up all sorts of things most of which are not relevant and/or benign. After my last set of scans I asked my oncologist "if there would be anything that might freak out" and he discussed some to the findings that would cause concern but where completely normal. Each radiologist takes has a different style (some use CM some MM when describing size) and all use Medical Terms, which can sound very very scary because they have specific meanings, that can be the exact opposite of what the lay terms means. That said discuss your concerns with your surgeon. Get a 2nd opinion from another surgeon and/or oncologist. Another set of eyes is always helpful, They usually confirm what you already know, which is very comforting, and they do have ideas on treatment that may not have occurred to your primary team, and last but not least, not be an alarmist, they may pick up something that was missed the first time a around.

      over 4 years ago
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      geekling

      Second opinion. Third opinion. Each independent of each other. Happily, some or your respondents gave you a few names. It might behoove you to make some personal lifestyle changes. The AMA has finally come out in agreement with a plant based nutritional life and your body needs regular movement in order to thrive. What ever your lifestyle has been, there is always room for improvement and for more love and a more loving and positive attitude which, in itself, lessens stress.

      over 4 years ago
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      bargoo

      I had breast cancer many years ago and had surgery at that time after several years my Doctor told me I didn't have to worry about it anymore. 23 years later I have Metastisized breast cancer, in other cancer has spread from the original site these many years later.,No one knows why it has spread so many years later. It has spread to my bones and I am in treatment now. I take these statements that someone is cured of cancer with a grain of salt.

      over 4 years ago
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