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    Loss (Relationship ): I seem to have lost my husband. He moved into the other bedroom when I came home from surgery and he is still there, 10 years later. Yes, I have asked him to move back, and he has to when we have company, but then he can't vacate my room fast enough. It has been a tough 10 years, but people say I am looking great now. I lost the weight-gain of 41 pounds last year, and the terrible circles under my eyes just started to decline. I laugh a lot with my new puppy and my grandkids, but my husband hardly makes a smile.

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      I am so sorry to hear this. Do you feel you are strong enough to move on yet, or do you even want to? I thought I was hearing "change, change, change" on the wind, but I have been known to be wrong.
      Sounds to me like you have an inactive participant to an activity that generally requires two people. Then, when there is only one left, the third and most lethal one wakes up, and that is the garbage that is stored between the ears of almost everyone on the planet, "What if, Why", and all that. Does your husband even speak when spoken to, by you I mean. This sounds too bizarre. You would do yourself a big favor to remember that the Good Lord does not create Trash, Man does. I am just blathering on here, trying to say something but I am tired and medicated and newly diagnosed, so therefore tell yourself that Dana, the one with the weird email, was really just saying that she felt for you, that she cared (s) and if you would like to strike up an email relationship she could use support too, and admires you for your extremely LOOOONG time in isolation and the courage you show reaching out. My email is [email redacted]. To the moderators and other people who work hard to keep this such a wonderful forum, if I broke a rule by giving my email, please tell me and I won't do it again. I will say that ahem, something about, um, selfish, inwardly focused men, I always wonder how they function on the planet just doing daily things, especially ones who have seemed to have lost the creators of testosterone...Oh my gosh, I mean seriously, that must have slipped my mind :).

      Joejo, please write me back...you need not go through this bs alone!!!

      about 4 years ago
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    Side Effects (Nerve damage (peripheral neuropathy)): I already had peripheral neuropathy in my legs. I experienced further damage, lost the use of toes on left foot and hands because half-numb. I was told just yesterday (10 years after) by my physical therapist that there is no therapy that works for the numb feet. Anybody found a different answer??

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