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    kimmysue asked a questionColorectal (Colon) Cancer

    I found out today that my father has colon cancer and will have surgery this coming Friday. My stepmother sent an email to my sister and I

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      Clyde

      Be there for your step-mother and your father, but don't ever forget that this is about him and at this time, his wishes are most important. Obviously, his reticence to discuss "bad news" isn't new to you so your shock about it this time does seem selfish.

      And even if you don't like everything that is said to you here, this is a better place to hear it than the alternative.

      about 4 years ago
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      booboo

      People do have the right to privacy, even parents. He will have to marshall all his resources to deal with this illness so even though you are upset with him, save this discussion for a time when he is not fighting for his life. This is not about you and your sister.

      about 4 years ago
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      Suehendo

      I hear you loud and clear. my mom has breast cancer and sometimes she wants to talk about it and other times she wants to pretend everything is good. I have learned to listen and wait for her to ask for help. my issue is not with my mom but my sister and brothers who don't help at all. We all love our mom, we just show it in different ways. All you can really do is be there for your dad, let him know you love him and your there to help. If he wants your help he will ask. I know it's hard but I have been reading what everyone is saying and it sounds like sometimes it's best to back off. I will pray for you and your family.

      about 4 years ago
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