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    How to make my mother pass on with out so much stress and pain

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      AlizaMLS

      Dear Kinereth,

      Hi, I'm Aliza and I'm a Medical Librarian. I'm retired, but still do research for people, even for people on this site. I researched for you re hospices in Mexico and found the following URL: http://www.hospicesma.org/services.php . It is a hospice service located in Mexico. I think that it is a service that provides hospice service in different locales rather than a specific hospice located in one place, but you will have to check with them. I can't do further research for you because they request specifics about the patient and the treating physician(s)

      Carm is perhaps the best resource on this site for what should be done for a patient medically. We're lucky to have him as an advisor! I'm sure the advice he gave you is excellent. I hope your mother is able to be pain free soon, hospice or not. If you do research the hospice option further, and it is helpful, please take a moment to let me know. I'll give you my personal email. I keep a list of resources available for the time when this site will be able to offer that as an inclusive feature. Thank you and I hope your mother gets through this difficult time as peacefully as she can and I wish you and your family to go from strength to strength.

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      AlizaMLS

      almost 4 years ago
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      moxie

      Ditto to what Carm posted and, to which I would add...singing to her softly favorite familiar songs; reading to her from a favorite book; keeping lights low and minimum noise and confusion in the air. Creating a safe and calm atmosphere. This brings rest to the soul. May God be with all of you.

      almost 4 years ago
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      Kinereth,

      I agree with what Moxie told you. We had my mother in hospice for a month (she'd suffered a Cerebral Hemorrhage and had a DNR [the hospital wanted to transfer her from where we live to a major Manhattan hospital for useless brain surgery which I decided against {because if she ever regained consciousness she still wouldn't have been able to speak or walk}]), but when I, my brother and my daughter visited her (each 3 x daily) in the hospital we each read to her from a favorite book of hers, a funny book that I bought her titled "I Feel Bad About My Neck" by Nora Ephron. It's about the pitfalls of growing old. I heard sometime last year that sadly Ms. Ephron whose works I've enjoyed, died from some type of cancer. My brother, daughter and I each alternated our visiting times, so she'd in effect have 9 visits/day and since she was in hospice we could go at any time which was good for me -I'm a night person by nature. We held her hand and stroked her arms and hugged and kissed her and I'm sure that she at least heard familiar voices through her coma so it was comforting for us as well.

      almost 4 years ago
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