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    I am a recently retired Army officer and just completed my master degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. My first counselor experience was learning today my mother has small cell lung cancer. I am so confused and hurt. I tried to keep a brave appearance in front of my mother and dad The doctors did us a disservice by not explaining to my parents what this diagnosis meant. My dad is in exterme denial (mainly because the doctor didnt truly explain it).

    Question: Do I explain the ramification of the diagnosis or do I get the oncologist to explain it. We haven't seen the oncologist yet. How do I get my father to understand the gravity or do I just wait until he is ready? They didn't teach us this in Clinical Mental Health counseling.

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      Hello and welcome to the site! Sorry for your having to go through this. I was in your shoes 2 years ago with my Mom, and 10 months earlier with my Dad. I lost them both to cancer. I had a similar situation, Moms doctor used the big terms, long words, vague descriptions with a lot of "mights" and Maybes involved. When we left I asked, do you understand what is happening, and Mom said, "well, not really, but I guess I have cancer".

      I explained the entire thing, in her case she was told 6 months, with or without treatements. So I had to cover that too. A very hard thing to do. You can do it or wait till the apt. with oncologist. But it will need to be done.

      Just a note on posting questions on this site. When you have a question that you need help from everyone on the network, click on the questions tab at the top of the page and post it there. Everyone sees the questions there. Posting as an update only people who are following you will see them.

      Best of luck to you and your Mom, It's a hard, hard thing to do. Harder than me having cancer 3 times myself.

      Thanks for being here, lots of great people here to help.

      Greg P
      3x Survivor
      Team WhatNext
      Community Mgr.

      almost 4 years ago

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