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    legaljen1969, I just want to tell you that I hope your thanksgiving celebration is wonderful, and good for you to follow your heart! I do respect everyone's choices, but I am afraid I am on a different page than most who have responded to my question. I am afraid I am more like that family member so many of them refer to as being *not careful.* I have grocery shopped and eaten at restaurants regularly. I wear my mask, I wash my hands. I am part of a small study group that meets every Monday evening, - we eat together (usually finger food, or we get pizza), we hug (gasp!) and in this cold weather we we keep the window's closed. There are at least 8 to 12 of us, so I am wondering why Thanksgiving is so dangerous when we have been meeting like this since May and we are FINE? Actually one couple did test positive for the virus - they stayed away from our group for two weeks but never suffered anything more than loss of smell. I may be terribly naive about all this. Maybe it is because I have not known of anyone who had a hard time with it, and you know I am in a circumstance where I am aware of the well being of quite a LOT of people. I had to laugh when you described yourself as coming to this site, guns blazing...lol! I think I did the same thing, but like you, I don't want to be disrespectful. Anyway, I suspect you and I are on the same page about a lot of things.

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      I feel happier reading your story @legaljen1969!

      Oh! Forgot to mention earlier, good for you for getting out of domestic law. The cortisol release from the stress of law practice really wreaks havoc with the body (also with child welfare - I swear it 'gave' me cancer)! Nice jump to doing something POSITIVE in the near future!

      Keep up the good juju vibes

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      LWC, I do the same type of grocery pick up at Kroger. And the only difference is that maybe a third are women. But everyone is super friendly. And even though I've been released from their care, I am grateful for my home health nurses. They were always so nice to me. We eventually got to a rhythm where it was always 1 of three different nurses, but before that I saw several, and all of them were so supportive. I really do miss their visits.

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      @fiddler, I worked in family law for about 9 years. I have felt lost and like I am swimming against the current every time I get away from it- but I have had to go where there are job openings. If offered a job in domestic law, I would jump back in head first if I got the right offer. Right now I work for someone who has been trying to get me to learn how to be a real estate paralegal for the better part of two years. I have said No, no, no, and more no. He still persists. The stress and cortisol of family law is NOTHING compared to the stress I feel having to fend off the possibility of being a real estate paralegal. I cannot think of anything I would enjoy less as a professional move. I had to tell my boss about two weeks ago that he had to make a choice and I only saw three paths (1) quit doing real estate altogether (2) hire someone to do real estate or (3) if times were tough and he needed someone to do all of it- let me go and hire someone who could do it all. I am NOT doing it.
      I am GOOD at family law/domestic law. People need an advocate and they will find someone- one way or another. Whether the person they find can support them when they are fighting their battle and help them come out a little less battle scarred is a completely different matter.
      It is like finding a doctor for cancer- you can find one that can do the surgery, administer the radiation, administer the chemo and make a plan for you. Whether you feel like that person cares about you is a different story. You can feel like you have a treatment team or you can feel like you just have a doctor who signs orders and does treatment. It takes someone with a special sense of care and compassion to do certain kinds of work. I think domestic law requires a bit more compassion than many types of medicine. I know it takes a special person to be an oncology doctor or nurse, someone who has a deeper sense of care than the average.
      I think maybe the stress of being away from what I love may have activated MY cortisol.
      It's funny how we are all so different in what we choose to do.
      I always swore I would never go into criminal defense work or do work in the prosecutors/solicitors office. After sitting all the way through a couple of jury roster calls and working for an attorney who represented corrections officers and first responders, it has become far more apparent to me that we get the justice we can afford. I would give thought to it now.

      Real estate- nope. Not this girl. Not all the moving parts and constant changes and money handling. That to me is so stressful. I can deal with handholding, crying, anger and "atta boys" all day if I feel like I made some difference at the end of the day. With real estate, it's just paper after paper after people and the more you get done, the more they give you to do.

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