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    Hi again. Thanks for sharing so much of your journey and in great detail. This journey is very difficult both mentally and physically and especially so when you are diagnosed before menopause. My family, especially my husband were so important to helping me through the tougher time of treatment. Additionally talking to other survivors was a needed form of support- they have been there - the loss of hair, the surgery and the chemo. Our illness drains our caregivers too and that is why it is important for them to have an outlet to voice their concerns. My husband had his brother to confide in. You nailed the key element when you stated to be “ mindfully in control of your health and wellness”. Wishing you better days and here to talk anytime teal sister.

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    Decision Point (Decisions were abundant! For so many different things! ): Every step of the way from just starting out and seeking out a referral to a GYN ONC and making that drive to get there, (hours away) the financial planning, the insurance follow ups, the preparatory plans of actions and the surgery go ahead, the decisions of dietary choices daily, the mental decisions DAILY to be a warrior or a victim, a fight daily to get up get moving(even if only to wash my face) every day we have choices, we all have battles, in all aspects of life , everyday we decide what we are going to do with this new day! (Decisions to pray were my greatest strengths) Make the best DECISIONS FOR YOU, your strengths, your health, your life! This diagnosis cannot take from you more than you allow it to take! Decide, to not give it more than you can spare to remain mentally strong!,..... And mindfully in control of your health and wellness!

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    Loss (Body parts, fertility, womanhood (in a sense), hair all over (every spec!), mental weight(cause only the most important things matter now!) , uncomfortableness( because I have become comfortable with being uncomfortable!) , ): My loss isn’t that much, because for every loss in the sense of the word I HAVE GAINED!
    With my loss of body parts (I have gained a healthier body ) ,
    With my chance of fertility cut out completely (I have gained more of a every second appreciation for our lil sweet pea we were so blessed to adopt 6 months BEFORE all this happened!)
    With my “womanhood” in a sense, gone, I have gained a new appreciation for the parts I still have and (I know the parts are only parts) and I AM STILL ME,... and I AM SO BLESSED
    The loss of hair all over,... I was head strong going into the first of the callings out, but as time went on the eyelashes and brows were (I’m not going to lie, they were a bit more to deal with emotionally) but ya get over it quick when ya realize YOU ARE STILL YOU AND YOU ARE SURVIVING AND STILL ALIVE! (Hopefully it will all grow back one day!)
    And the Mental weight loss side of all this is gainfully freeing !
    The things that seemed important ARENT NOW!
    The worries the stresses the tasks the mental clarity (even though you’re in a chemo fog) is still great because lil things that were bothersome aren’t as important and don’t take up my energy anymore the focus ahead has shifted!