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    Spousal support

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      HOBO

      MY husband and have had our ups and Downs over the life of our marriage. We both come from families that care for family members. But when I was dx he was not being supportive of me so I enlisted a friend to take me to appointment, etc. He would come along most days but she is the one that took notes and acted as my advocate. Eventually, when I was not able to just have surgery and return to.work, my friend had enough so I told my husband HE would have to.step it up. I am extremely independent, but was now faced with needing help. he stepped up. it has strengthened our relationship. We Always took care of others and never needed to.care for each other. We now have more jokes between us and a new connection. Me getting sick and needing him has been good. He shops, does the laundry, cooks and even learned to make me a great cup of coffee and he does not drink it. I have a new appreciation and am very humbled by my illness. While no relationship is perfect, ours has improved. We spend more time together. God works in strange ways. Me getting sick may have just saved our marriage.

      over 6 years ago
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      My husband was there for me as much as he could be. He was there during my mastectomy and for a week after recovery. He had to work though, so my mom took care of me during the week and he took care of me on the weekends. His mother died 5 days before my surgery and he has been dealing with probate from that throughout my treatment. He took me to have my port placed and my first chemo. But since he had to work, my mom did the rest. My doctor appointments were after chemo, so that helped. Mom did the laundry and cooked for the most part. When I was feeling good, we went out to eat (I didn't cook much before so....). He has been there for me the whole time though. There have been ups and downs, but he has been there.

      over 6 years ago
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      My response is yes and no. He was there during the surgery and then during the 2nd week of my recovery. Other than that he has not been very supportive and it is difficult at times to get him to understand or talk. My mother passed five years ago and boy do I miss her. I don't have any sisters and only one sister-in-law who lives in Tennessee. My daughter lives over two hours away and struggles to work and pay her bills. She took time off to be at the hospital and she took care of me the first week after surgery. Since then she has gone with me to appointments when she can get off work. My son lives locally and helps to some extent. He drove me to appointments until I could drive, he helps take care of my dogs and does a few things around the house that I am unable to manage just yet. He is not comfortable going in to doctor visits and does not speak up. I am a very independent person who has not really made any close friends since I moved back to SC. It's hard for me, but I have been trying to make connections and I keep praying that God would send that good friend I so desperately need right now. I just have to trust in him and he will see me through.

      over 6 years ago
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