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    Moms with Young Kids

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      Skyemberr

      I have an 8 year old abd a 16 year old. My husband is great. He does what he can to help us all. However, I am sick enough that we live with his parents so that my 8 year old can get care like getting help getting ready to go to school, and getting a snack in the afternoon sometimes if I'm not awake to give it to her.

      I'm very very lucky, but even with all of these people helping it still overwhelms my family. In my case I'd reach out to my palliative care program because I have a good social worker there who would probably be the one to help my family get more resources for help or care for my self or to relieve my care providers.

      I don't know what programs are currently out there, but that's where I would turn first if I needed to. They may not have something exactly attuned to helping your kids, but they might have lots attuned to helping you, which would possibly help out the family by helping to get you to chemo and stuff so they can spend more time with your 1 year old.

      I know it can be hard not to feel bad because the cancer keeps you from doing all of the things you want to do, but it is in times like these that it is ok to reach outside of the family and call for backup.

      Good luck to you! I hope I'm right and they have help they can provide to you.

      3 months ago
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      BarbarainBham

      Although I didn't have young children at the same time as cancer, I would call my church or a nearby church and ask about help or if they have any teenagers who would help.

      I would also ask my friends in a way that left it open-ended and non-pressuring, i.e., post on Facebook that you're having a difficult time and if "anybody" has extra time, you would appreciate _______." If you or they don't use Facebook, I would say the same words in an email or phone call.

      You could also ask if anybody would like for you to keep their kids (on your good days) with the agreement they would keep your kids on your bad days (be specific about when).

      You may have to find a way to pay a neighborhood teenager to babysit a few hours a week. I would also really talk to my parents about the problem, so they would probably help more.

      Sometimes people don't realize how bad things are if you don't tell them, so I think that's the key to your solution. Best wishes.

      3 months ago
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      Miche1229,
      I hope the above good ideas got you some help, but if not please call the American Cancer Society. They have lots of volunteers and may find a solution for you, even temporarily. Best wishes!

      2 months ago
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    Drug or Chemo Therapy (Chemotherapy): I have 2 young kids. 2 boys, ages almost 5 and a little baby who just turned 1 on 4/30. He was 7 months at the time i was diagnosed and my chemo started. I did 4 rounds of AC every other week and I had the neulasta patch. Side effects were awful and it took me about a week to recover. I’m currently in the middle of my taxol treatment. Today is #8 out of 12. I get treated Wednesdays, Thursdays I’m ok, Fridays and Saturdays I’m a mess. I can’t function Fridays and I sleep all day. Saturday I try to get up with kids and husband but I end up going back to bed. By the afternoon I can function minimally but my body hurts. Sunday afternoons I usually snap out of it but if I over exert myself, I need to rest. I get tired very easily, my muscle tone is awful, and I can’t help out with my kids as much as it’s needed. My husband is a rockstar but it’s been a struggle and more stress than anything finding help sometimes when we need it.

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      Lisamoses

      Are you taking Claritin for the body aches? It helps the pain as the bones produce more white blood cells.

      3 months ago
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      Chemo was a challenge for me too. I was also stage IIIc and was devastated by my diagnosis. Once you finish the Taxol, you’ll feel better every day. Don’t be surprised if you’re a little anxious when you finish chemo. I recovered from surgery pretty quickly but I had mine before chemo. During radiation, I got progressively more fatigued. Took lots of naps. Reach out if your family needs help. I found that my friends and family were just waiting for me to ask. They were actually relived that we asked for help because they wanted to do something for us but didn’t know what to do.

      3 months ago