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    What do I do without my labia minora????

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      Pamela. There are so many cancers that doctors ignore or misdiagnose. I had what looked like a pimple under my nose for 20 years. One doctor decided that wasn't normal, but she couldn't do biopsies and stuff in her clinic. She referred me out several times to get it removed. Nobody would do it. She came up with the idea that if I volunteered to sit naked at the medical school each semester that something it would happen. Yeah, something happened, each semester dermatology students came in and examined me. Each time I asked. I did that for 3 years. A male student said he never saw anything like that-just what was it-can't we take it off just to see what it was. The dermatologist professor called him horrible names. I'm in remission, but it was a rare incurable cancer. My expected remission time isn't expected to be that long. part of my nose and mouth are gone.

      You think that I haven't beat myself up for crossing the border and going to a mexican doctor? That I should have taken a bottle of vodka and a skinning knife, driven to a parking lot by an ER, and drank the vodka and cut it out myself. In this state, we've actually had women that did for different things. One woman cut out her leaky breast implants that way. I look at them, and I know 2 things: 1-I am a coward. I'm not as brave as these other women. 2-I was stupid to trust doctors.

      It's hard to do, but stop beating yourself up----I'm so XXX suspicious now it's not funny. Oh this state has a 3 year limit on law suits. I couldn't even sue.

      over 5 years ago
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      for not crossing the border---how could I look any worse than I do even if the mexican was a carnoso? They've had lots of practice on cartel members.

      over 5 years ago
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      We all feel sorry for ourselves. So many of us have a what if::::: Why this::::::::: If I had a better doctor:::::If i went to another doctor, a different specialist::::had a different treatment:::lived in another country::::: lived in a different part of the US::::So don't feel ignorant. We don't exactly go around saying I have wee-wee cancer, i have a cancer on my big toe- this is a wig, used. or I have mouth cancer, and we don't ask everyone we see-Do you have cancer-do you have diabetes-whatever--- How can we ever be aware of what many people go through? There's a mercy in not knowing what's going to happen to us. We're happier. Like they say in Nawleans- Let the good times roll!! I don't care how much we pray and abstain. or how much Kale we eat. In a few years everyone will eat something else, because the kale people will be suffering with us.

      I just try for quality of life, personal dignity for as long as I can.

      It's scary that there are so many of us. Take a pillow to sit on. if you don't want to talk to anybody about it, tell them you hurt your tail bone. We had one discussion about stupid things that we've been told, so we don't always care to be transparent to everyone. Some people don't tell anybody at work, because they want to escape cancer-live in a cancer free environment. I didn't tell my neighbors- bad blood. I didn't want them dancing on my front lawn in celebration. -really.

      Someone wanted to borrow my power tools-she doesn't return anything-I think the people she hires walk off with my stuff. I politely told her -NO- She said that she could bother the lady down the street, but they had a real cancer. There's that----

      Take care---

      over 5 years ago
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