Please know that we are thinking of you.
Has anyone heard ANYTHING about Cancer Treatment Centers of America, good or bad? [email redacted]
My experience with them is pretty negative as they have an 8 week waiting list for initial visits for patients on medicare. My best friend is a nurse-practitioner and she spoke with one of their representatives at some length. She felt they stacked the deck in their own favor (to have a high success rate) by only taking younger patients (fit with discouraging medicare patients, who are mostly over 65). She actually told the man that she felt the selection of patients seemed unethical and we never even got to the part where I could or could not pay supplemental costs as I have additional insurance.
KarenG_WN: Who are you? What is your situation? The very words you posted, "I am following Mitchell," is more comforting than you can know. You are apparently quite active in all this sort of thing. This is wearing me down, and admittedly, for whatever reason I am not handling all this with my usual decisivness and efficiency and confidence. Are you a caregiver? A survivor? How can we "chat"? Thanks in advance, [email redacted]
Thank you for your kind words. I am a moderator for the WhatNext network. My father in law is fighting cancer right now. He teaches me what it means to fight, and fight hard.
I'm here to help you as best as I can. I sent you an email last nite. Please know that we are all here for you and that you are not alone, even though it may feel that way at times.
Reach out to me when you need to and to the network when you are ready.
Oh No (All of the above): I am her husband of 40 years. She is the one I have always turned to for support, comfort, advice, the only one who has ever really loved me. She had a huge and horrendous surgery two weeks ago, is awaiting chemo to begin, and the PET scan and CAT scan just found more cancer -- A LOT more cancer. She is the most gentle soul I have ever met. I am powerless; helpless, alone. I feel like crying all the time, and yet must try to not let her see this affect me, as that would be selfish, a word I am long familiar with. I can't even focus on my relationship with God, as this disease from XXX distracts and impedes me. Where do I turn?
I am sorry for all you and your loved one are going through. First of all let me say how lucky your wife is to have such a loving caretaker. I firmlly believe it is just as hard on the people around as it is on the person with the disease. I was overcome with guilt at times because I felt since I had cancer, everyone around me had it too. Like you I tried to hide my feelings from my mom and my son because it was hard for them to see me suffer. But that made it more difficult in ways. I wanted to share how I felt because I was frightened and sick and needed reasurrance and consoling. Luckily I had friends and other relatives who took the brunt of these feelings. I don't believe your wife would think it is selfish for you to share your feelings. This is a time when sharing feelings is most important. I said things to people I would never had said under normal circumstances. I told people how I felt about them, how much I appreciated them and thanked anyone who did anything for me.
The first few weeks after my diagnosis are a blur because I was so sick and so scared. My doctors gave me hope and I slowly came to terms with it. I decided to fight for my life and take each day as it came. It may be cliche but taking it one day at a time is the only way to get through this, at least for me. It is really all a person can handle. I am still doing that.
Don't feel bad for whatever feelings you are having. We can't control them, I doubt you can really hide your feelings anyway. Us women are pretty intuitive about that. Your wife is probably feeling bad for you and it is okay that she knows how you feel.