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    mommyof3 asked a questionColorectal (Colon) Cancer

    How do you tell a 13, 10, and 9 year old you have terminal cancer without crushing them?

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      tombo

      i agree with Peroll,,i too was deemed terminal,,3 months at best,,i am still here,a year and a half later,,my cancer is stableized??well its not progressing,,but i still do chemo every 3 weeks,,hang in there,,you can do this,,i realize this kills people,,but just keep fighting,,dont give up,,you can do this,,there are soooo many good people on this sight to help you,,with erything,,from pain to otherways of dealing with this horrble disease,,eat healthy,,,pray,,laugh,,think positive thought,,i swear that helps,,good luck(i hate when people say that!!!but??),,hey,,i will pray for you if you want me too,,,xxoomike

      over 4 years ago
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      Nomadicme

      Sometimes I'm too focused on the negative to remember the positive. I worked with this woman who lost her mom to brain cancer when she was 10. She then lost her father as a young adult. I've never met anyone so positive, yet in touch with mortality. She is of the philosophy were all here to die, but not in a morbid negative way. I'm not sure how she was told about her mom, but obviously it was done in a positive life affirming way. Her father must have been part of the answer. So look for people/ideas that can bring that sort of peace and understanding to your kids. I'm sure leaving them in a positive frame of mind will greatly ease your sorrow.

      over 4 years ago
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      alivenwell

      Kids can really understand this stuff. Make a photo album for each of them that reflects the happier times in your lives that helps them remember positive memories. You might want to see Randy Pausch's Last Lecture since he had similar issues. He did his last lecture (rather humorous) for his family, especially his kids so that they would see his personality. It's out there on Youtube. Amazon also has his book. Also, on a more serious note, you might want to see if the oncologist can write a signed letter encouraging each kid to get screened when they turn 40 years old.

      over 4 years ago
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    mommyof3 asked a questionColorectal (Colon) Cancer

    My leg swells before chemo, does anyone else have that problem?

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      Harry

      Seriously, FreeBird is correct. Talk to your doctor about this. It might be nothing or it might indicate something. Your doc should be able to tell.

      On a lighter side (get laughs where ever you can--even in the midst of hardships), maybe it's your cancer running in terror.

      Shut the door and lock and latch it,
      Here comes Lizzie with a brand new hatchet! :-)

      over 4 years ago
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      storknurse

      You do need to tell your doctor, or at least your chemo nurse, so this can be evaluated. You don't give quite enough information here for us to be much help on cause. I like the other answer and would be happy if it was the cancer cells trying to run for their lives because another round of chemo is coming.

      over 4 years ago
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      Cindy

      You should talk to your doctor about it. It could be a sign of deep vein thrombosis (blood clot) especially if it only affects 1 leg. It is common in cancer patients who do not move around much. I had a problem with my feet swelling and my doctor had me get a sonogram of the veins in my leg to check for it. Fortunately I did not have it.

      over 4 years ago
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    Side Effects (Swelling (edema)): Every week about three days before chemo my left leg swells up into an elephant leg, then after chemo it goes back down

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    Radiation (External radiation ): I had radiation for 2 weeks. It was very easy to do. Really had no side effects.

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