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    My husband has been told June of this year that he has AML cancer. He has been through some kemo and now we have to go and see a bone marrow doctor to see if he will qualify for a bone marrow transplant. All of this has put a big toll on our life. There are so many times I wander if I am giving him the right care. He now is accussing me of leaving him and of cheating on him. He has also chased off all of our family and friends. Iam feeling so alone and trying to be here for him. but I am at the end of my rope, is there any advice that anyone can give me to help me understand how I can help him and keep my selffrom falling to pieces.

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      KarenG_WN

      Hi motherslove, it sounds like you and your husband are going through a lot. I am going to suggest that you also post this in our Questions section as a way to get more people to see this and provide you with their insight. You can do this by clicking on Questions in the purple bar above and then typing in the text box.

      The American Cancer Society has a 24 hour hotline that can help: the phone number is to the right and at the bottom of this page. Here is a page on the ACS website that provides caregiver support: http://www.cancer.org/Treatment/Caregivers/index. Also, one of our WhatNextner's, @robcares, has has a wonderful blog for caregivers, http://www.robcares.com. If you would like, please take a look when you have a chance for some good ideas.

      about 4 years ago
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    My husband has been told June of this year that he has AML cancer. He has been through some kemo and now we have to go and see a bone marrow doctor to see if he will qualify for a bone marrow transplant. All of this has put a big toll on our life. There are so many times I wander if I am giving him the right care. He now is accussing me of leaving him and of cheating on him. He has also chased off all of our family and friends. Iam feeling so alone and trying to be here for him. but I am at the end of my rope, is there any advice that anyone can give me to help me understand how I can help him and keep my selffrom falling to pieces.

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      JoLoaretti

      the drugs make them feel really bad... a lot of the time, on top of not feeling good because of the cancer, My husband also has AML, it is not easy, but it is worth it, just know that...
      he is going through so much right now. the drugs affect his hormone levels so men can lose what makes them feel like a MAN, so they might think why would you stay... they are different than women are for heavens sake, but have him see an endocrinologist too, it helps when he is not all out of wack hormonally, its kinda like putting a man into menopause..... oooh good anaolgy.
      this job of caregiving is a hard one......and the mortality rate for us care givers is nearly as high as it is for our loved ones fighting cancer... YOU MUST take care of yourself in order to be able to take care of him. physically and emotionally
      let me know your ok.... or not

      about 4 years ago