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    mtolady asked a questionBreast Cancer

    smaller breast

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      mtolady

      Ok thanks ladies....and carter mine is a little harder to must be normal I guess... Thanks!! God Bless...

      about 4 years ago
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      Nonnie917

      If I was you I would see my doctor again. That just doesn't sound right.

      about 4 years ago
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      SandiD

      Mine is smaller after my lumpectomy and I was told that scar tissue from radiation will prevent it from drooping as much as the other one. Oh well, we are here to complain about it, right? It isn't too noticeable with a bra on.

      about 4 years ago
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    mtolady asked a questionBreast Cancer

    ANOTHER HAIR QUESTION....

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      Interesting posts--don't know whether it should scare me or make me happy. I am 2 months post chemo and have what I call thick peach fuzz. It isn't enough that I go without my wig in public but it is is so soft and feels like I am petting an animal. I have always had straight hair so I was sort of hoping for some curls just to try it once in my life. I am just hoping for it to be long enough so I can go without my wig by May when I work for my husband at the farmer's market every week. I like the style and color of my $23 wig but I don't like hats and it feels like I have a hat on all the time. I don't wear it at all at home and want to be outside feeling the warm breezes on my head soon. The wig will be too hot in humid, central Illinois this summer. I did notice that is seems my eye lashes have thinned since my last chemo dose but I never did loose any eyebrows. It is all so weird and individualized.

      about 4 years ago
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      SherrySwett

      I think if my hair came in that curly I might get a short haircut and not even comb it, just use some mousse and fluff it around a bit.

      about 4 years ago
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      mtolady

      Thank you all for your advice....I will just work with the curls maybe in a few months I will get them cut off, but really don't want to get hair cut just yet.....God Bless :)

      about 4 years ago
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    mtolady asked a questionBreast Cancer

    Job harrasment....

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      GregP_WN

      Ms. MT I have been on both sides of the fence on this one. I was working for another company when diagnosed my first time. They only had 6 employees, but they kept paying my salary when I was in treatment and would miss 2 days every week. Then at times I had to be in the hospital for a week they kept paying me. I was good at my job, though. I was one of two people hiring, and training people to travel and be our sales . Not many people can do that. So it's different than having a cashier or a position that many could fill.

      Then, on the other side, I have owned a company for 23 years. I have had several people work for us over the years. When an employee was sick or had a problem, I am more understanding about it. But still, I can't have one person on the payroll that can't do their job, sick or not, we are just too small, payroll is a major portion of the overhead.

      My only answer is to be sure your doing your job well enough to fill the need of that position, even if your not who you used to be, just be sure you don't let the cancer be an excuse to slack off. Try to go out and above the call or needs of your job. One thing I can promise you, if I have an employee that is really good at their job, the kind of person that when work time is here and I don't see him and I get worried about him. That is a keeper employee. If they are sick, no problem, take off, get done what you need, because for me it's worth it. It's not fair, but if your the type of employee that is on the fence as far as quality of work, acceptance by the rest of the work force, and the company could take you or leave you, you had better watch your back.

      The size of your company means a lot. And the compassion of your superiors.

      I wish you the best, and hope that you can be the best YOU, that you can be.

      over 4 years ago
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      I'm not sure what your specific issues are. But, if you're more tired from chemo, if you have chemo brain, and/or anything else, get a note from your Dr and ask for accommodation to your disability. This is so you're not in a she said/he said scenario. As a cancer patient/survivor you're protected under the Americans with dissability act, both at the federal and state level. Document and you'll be fine.

      over 4 years ago
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      babydol0618

      My husband was diagnosed with Renal Cell Carcinoma on 02/12/13. Called my employer that same day to inquire about FMLA and I told them the diagnosis. They gave me a number to call and when I went to work the next day- I was fired!

      over 4 years ago