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    Celebration (Remission): May 21, 2011. All scans clear. I celebrate with my family of choice deep in the heart of Texas!

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      shoch

      Sounds like we're in the same boat in a lot of respects... I too tire of hearing about how young I am (33), like it really matters, right? As of Dec 2, 2011 I have clean CT, PET, & MRI, 10 mos after surgery for metastatic stomach cancer. I had peritoneal metastases. Have they discussed with you how sensitive scans are in detecting mets? I am anxious to get another laparoscopic surgery even though I'm only 1.5 mos out from 8 mos of chemo.

      almost 5 years ago
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      diovino

      Congratulations, I hope you are living life to it's fullest and enjoy every single minute of it. YOU DESIRE IT!!!!! I am so happy for you but sorry you had to go through this without your family supporting you. I don't know how I would do it if i didn't have my family and friends. Doesn't matter the age of the person, I am only 50 and still young at heart with a XXX of lot to live for. But this is about YOU!!!! Enjoy you life cancer free.

      over 4 years ago
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    Loss (Relationship ): Met a former boyfriend (I'm gay, holla) the June after my treatment was finished. He knew about the cancer, but it was never discussed in detail. Almost two years into the relationship, there's a tumor scare (benign). He informs me that if I get 'sick' again, he won't take care of me. I leave him, healthy, two months later.

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    Celebration (Finished treatment): May 21st, 2006. No malignancies, tumor markers at an acceptable level. I send my (original) doctor a birthday card, made out to me, for five years from that date. I let him know that I'm going to outlive him. 8% can suck it.

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    Decision Point: I still had not told my family I had cancer. The surgeries/ chemo all happened in such rapid succession... Which, okay, while that is true, really I just didn't want to tell them. Part of it is that it felt like it would be saying goodbye, part of it is that I was raised to 'handle my own problems', usually in such a way as to actually end up being detrimental, and the majority of it was that if I told my mother, it would not be that I had cancer, it would be that she had a son who had cancer, and could everyone just please console her, because that is so very tough on a mother, yada yada.
    I spent a lot of time debating whether or not to tell them-- and not telling them meant not telling most people, so it wouldn't get back to them. There was a lot of fear. I never stopped to consider how badly I needed support, and how thoroughly I was cheating myself by not getting help. I never told my family. To this day, the words 'lazy' and 'scrawny' are probably the most commonly used terms my mother uses to describe me.

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    Side Effects (Other): Don't want to put up a new thing for each side effect, since there were so many. Tired all the time, hair loss (even though my head was usually buzzed, I managed to freak out anyway. I lost my eyebrows!), my teeth (already very soft, but well taken care of) started degrading, which still impacts my social life, depression, I peed myself three or four times in public (wee!), etc.

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    Procedure or Surgery (Surgery): Removed the rest of the resectable tumor(s).