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    Does anyone here suffer from survivours guilt?

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      liznparadise

      I understand how you are feeling. I posted the same question when a good friend's son-in-law passed away. He was diagnosed shortly after I was and he had a wife and 2 young sons. My children are grown. I felt guilty too. But I baked cookies and took them to my friend's house. She had her grandsons there for a visit. I told her how I felt. She was so happy to see me and see me well that I had to give up the guilt. No one knows when our time will come. If I had died it would not mean that he would have lived. I now believe that i can best honor those who do not survive by living the best life that I can and to try to help others.

      about 4 years ago
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      warrior3

      Yes, I do have those feelings of guilt. Funny, when I was diagnosed I never asked "Why me?" - I actually felt like "Why NOT me?" Yet now that I'm one of the lucky ones who is a survivor I wonder "Why me?"
      About 2 years after my treatments had ended my brother-in-law was diagnosed with esophageal cancer. He and my sister-in-law came to stay with us so that he could be treated at the same cancer center that I had gone to for treatment. A year and a half later he had died. Those feelings of guilt were very strong, especially since we had encouraged him to come here for treatment. I'm glad you're seeing a counselor to help with your feelings. Just embrace the amazing good fortune that you've been given. I do that every single day and I really try to make the most of my time here on earth. I find I'm a kinder, gentler version of myself post-cancer and I like it :) Best of luck and congratulations on your good health - enjoy it, you deserve it!

      about 4 years ago
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      DaveWaz

      nitronick,

      Thank you so much for sharing your question on survivor's guilt. It inspired us to write an article on Survivor's Guilt and Ways to Cope. Perhaps you will find it helpful if you are still struggling with these emotions.

      http://www.whatnext.com/blog/posts/feelings-of-survivor-s-guilt-and-15-ways-to-cope#disqus_thread

      Hope all is well,
      David

      about 3 years ago
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    Well its official now. I am in remission as my final results from the PET scan done 2 weeks ago finally came in late yesterday. Doctor told me no signs of the disease are present right now. Next scan in 3 months. Thank you all for your support and answering my questions here.

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      Jodi

      Sorry, I have been MIA for awhile. OMG! This is amazing news and I am sooooooooo thrilled for you. I remember my PET scan day of Aug. 5, 2012 and then getting the same news one week later. Seriously, wonderful news. Thanks for letting me know. Take GOOD care of yourself. Do not overdo it. And, remember....do not get frustrated during those days when you have two good days and one bad..... (I need to take my own advice). Stay WELL!!!!

      about 4 years ago
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      nitronick

      HI Jodi. Thank you so much for the congratulations! Its been a whirlwind of postie activity around here since that final scan result. I do agree too take life a step at a time is needed. I want to jump in head first and catch up. But I will try to take it slow. Jodi do you have my email address yet? Send me a note on how your birthday went etc. I love to hear about it. Hope to hear from you soon.
      Nick

      about 4 years ago
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      GregP_WN

      Oops! I see you already answered the question I asked earlier, you did hear back from them.
      Good news!

      about 4 years ago
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    nitronick posted an update

    Well its official now. I am in remission as my final results from the PET scan done 2 weeks ago finally came in late yesterday. Doctor told me no signs of the disease are present right now. Next scan in 3 months. Thank you all for your support and answering my questions here.

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      GregP_WN

      Thats great news! Usually that's what negative means, nothing there. But I quit trying to do my Dr's job and interpreting these things. I can go online and look at my scans, xrays, test results before they even call me. I have to stop doing that, I just scare myself!

      Glad it's looking good, have you heard back from them yet?

      about 4 years ago
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