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      Sweetie, people react different ways to life's challenges. Sometimes the only thing you can do is just be available. Notice I said "available" not "there". Let her know you love her and you're there if she needs you.... but leave her alone until she calls.

      about 4 years ago
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      Boy,I know what you are saying...the only practical advice to offer is sometimes depression and anxiety manifest as anger,,at least they do in myself.I have found medication sometimes helps.But,I agree that you cant be responsible for her anger,,she alone owns it and as theysay must wear the sign! on the other hand,a caregiver group might have advice for you as to how to handle her anger. feel to e-mail me if you want,,all I can offer is a patients view,but Id be happy to share.

      about 4 years ago
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      I totally understand what you and your sister are experiencing unfortunately. My husband has stage four colon cancer and I am his caregiver. He has many surgeries over the years. whenever he takes this one drug for pain - Hydrocodone which is a generic, he is very angry and agitated all the time. Finally when he was diagnosed with his cancer in December of last year, I told his oncologist about how angry and agitated he can get when takes certain meds. So not only were we facing his late stage cancer but also his anger bouts again. So his oncologist gave him some additional meds to help him (AND me) through all this. One he takes daily for depression once per day and two different ones for anxiety - one that he takes twice per day and one that he takes when he feels an unusual level of anger or whatever. I can't tell you how much taking these additional Meds has helped our married life! :) I don't believe in taking unnecessary Meds, but sometimes they can make all the difference in life for the patient and also for those around her. And I bet she doesn't want to feel that way too. Best wishes.

      about 4 years ago
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      Sweetie, people react different ways to life's challenges. Sometimes the only thing you can do is just be available. Notice I said "available" not "there". Let her know you love her and you're there if she needs you.... but leave her alone until she calls.

      about 4 years ago
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      Boy,I know what you are saying...the only practical advice to offer is sometimes depression and anxiety manifest as anger,,at least they do in myself.I have found medication sometimes helps.But,I agree that you cant be responsible for her anger,,she alone owns it and as theysay must wear the sign! on the other hand,a caregiver group might have advice for you as to how to handle her anger. feel to e-mail me if you want,,all I can offer is a patients view,but Id be happy to share.

      about 4 years ago
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      I totally understand what you and your sister are experiencing unfortunately. My husband has stage four colon cancer and I am his caregiver. He has many surgeries over the years. whenever he takes this one drug for pain - Hydrocodone which is a generic, he is very angry and agitated all the time. Finally when he was diagnosed with his cancer in December of last year, I told his oncologist about how angry and agitated he can get when takes certain meds. So not only were we facing his late stage cancer but also his anger bouts again. So his oncologist gave him some additional meds to help him (AND me) through all this. One he takes daily for depression once per day and two different ones for anxiety - one that he takes twice per day and one that he takes when he feels an unusual level of anger or whatever. I can't tell you how much taking these additional Meds has helped our married life! :) I don't believe in taking unnecessary Meds, but sometimes they can make all the difference in life for the patient and also for those around her. And I bet she doesn't want to feel that way too. Best wishes.

      about 4 years ago
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