- Osawatomie, KS
- Member Since Sep 2012
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- Survivor: Breast Cancer
- Patient Info: Finished active treatment less than 5 years ago, Diagnosed: over 7 years ago, Female, Age: 54, Stage IIB, HER2 Positive: Don't Know, ER Positive: Don't Know, PR Positive: Don't Know
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rhyannsmom wrote on Gumpus61's wall
Thank you for your post. I hope I can find a way to share it with my husband. I am dying from metastatic breast cancer. I'm only just a little over a year into this new life of knowing I will live with cancer for the rest of my life. I have a little longer life expectancy of 5-10 years, with around 6 being the norm. Right now its easy to be in denial. I feel well, working, "not today, not this month and probably not this year" allow you to maintain positivity and hope. My husband and children appear to be in complete denial, they brush me off when my husband will say something like, "I really liked that place, maybe when we retire we can move there or spend more time there, etc." To which I respond, "Yeah, maybe you can, I won't live long enough to retire." He then scolds me for thinking such thoughts as if saying it is what is going to make it happen. I'm sure even though we've been married 34 years, he'll never really share is thoughts and fears with me. It was good to hear your side of it as I can imagine my husband thinking and feeling similar things as we go further on the journey--even though he won't tell me. Don't ever feel guilty because you resent the things cancer has stolen from you or that you wish it to all be over. Grieving is normal when you loose things you love--even if they are just changed and not really gone yet.