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      I remember during my cancer battle how everyone said I was so strong. Did I feel strong? No. I just had to learn to take each day as it came and deal with it as problems came up. Illness can make us feel like we have no control. And believe me, there were days that my life was spinning out of control. I just had to learn to trust God and my doctors. I made it through everything and will be an 8 year survivor in October. Ride the waves!

      3 months ago
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      this is a good one. I enjoy reading these inspirational posts and trying to apply them to my situation.

      3 months ago
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      Both of those are inspiring messages, thanks for posting both of them.

      3 months ago
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    Inspiring words for everyone, don't wait, be nice today.

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      legaljen1969

      For the first couple of months that I was having appointments prior to my surgery, I always had a smile on my face. My surgeon's nurse always said to me "There's that smile. I know you hate to see us but I enjoy seeing you smile." It's funny because I am very self conscious. I was bullied a lot as a child and I always think people are being sarcastic when they compliment me, so I am pretty quick to discount positive words. For example, if someone laughs around the same time they pay me a compliment, I will "know" they are not sincere. If you tell me you like my shirt, it will be the last time I wear it. If you tell me "Wow, that ring is pretty," it will never again be seen in public except by the person who gave it to me. It has happened even with things gifted to me by people I love.
      She told me that one of their other patients had remarked to her that the "girl who always smiles hasn't smiled in a long time. Is she okay?" That patient told her that she always felt hopeful when she saw me because I was always smiling before and she hoped my smile was coming back because she was worried for me. I never in a million years thought my smile made anyone happy or gave hope to anyone.
      Who am I to be the one that makes anyone feel sad? Who am I to not give hope by a simple smile? Who am I to worry anyone? Well, I have made sure to smile at every appointment since then. I don't know who likes seeing my smile, but I am going to be sure it's present in case they are looking.
      I also made a book with positive affirmations and quotes and put it in the lobby at our breast care center. I just put it there and pretended I accidentally left it. The next time I was in, the receptionist told me that she found my book after someone told her how much they enjoyed it. She was going to give it back to me. I told her to keep it and if someone else needed it and wanted to take it, that I hope they would pass it on. I have made a few more copies and put them in the medical and radiation oncology offices. I hope they are lifting spirits.

      3 months ago
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      Awe @legaljen1969, I can tell you that from reading your posts, I have thought that you were a super nice and very generous and caring person. I am so sorry that you were bullied to the point that you maybe believed what the bullies were saying :( I always enjoy your posts because you seem like a sincere, open person ... one that I would enjoy knowing "in the real world." And none of that is said to be sarcastic at all.

      I am glad the nurse convinced you that your smile was benefiting someone (probably a lot more than one someone). What a nice gesture to make the book. Would you tell us more about the book? I think I would be interested in trying something similar to drop at my cancer center if I ever get to go back again. I haven't ever figured out why God has kept me here on this earth, but I do try to spread hope everywhere I go. And it sounds like that is just what your book is doing!

      3 months ago
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      @LiveWithCancer, the book is simply one of those photo books you can make at Walgreens or on Shutterfly. I put some pictures in it from various Race for the Cure walks I have done to benefit others. I googled positive quotes and put those around the pages as well. I just did about 8 pages. My next venture to leave for people to enjoy is to leave a journal where people can write down their thoughts and other people can respond. It will be sort of an interactive journal.
      I was thinking back on spending time in the chapel where my father had open heart surgery. There was a prayer notebook at the front of the chapel where people would write down prayers for their loved ones and people could read them and offer prayers. Some people would write things back and you could see a dialogue starting. The notebook went back about 4 years when I saw it. People would come back later and write that their family member had passed away or write that surgery went well and the person was being discharged. I was sitting in there when another lady came in one day and asked about the notebook. The young lady and I sat and read some of the notes and prayed for the families. After the second day my father was there, I would go down every time I visited and see if anyone else had written anything else.

      I just think sometimes we feel so alone in this journey. Since you have said you are retired, I know you will understand. There is something special about handwriting a note or writing in a journal. It feels much more personal. I will see how it works out. Maybe I will just put the journal in the hospital chapel instead.

      3 months ago
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    How is the general public reacting to this pandemic in your area?

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      Lynne-I-Am

      Well, in California, we are self isolating. I live in the very northern part of the state. Our county has had four cases of the virus, one 70year old lady has died.. She had heart surgery a few weeks earlier. Restaurants and all nonessential businesses are closed. I am surprised with all the people and children at home I do not see any increase in people out exercising on runs or walks. I do not see kids playing outside their homes. Kind of eerie. Getting ready to brave the grocery store this coming Monday since supplies growing short. Toilet paper a priceless commodity here, shelves cleaned out of toilet paper early . Some people have shredded up undershirts to use in place of toilet paper plugging up the waste facilities. Now that was something I never thought I would hear on the news, along with all the other surreal news being broadcasted over the networks.

      4 months ago
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      People are finally starting to get it through their heads that this is no joke! But I'm afraid it's a little too late now. Because of the late call to get everyone off the streets and close things down thousands of people have been exposed to this that shouldn't have.

      4 months ago
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      Personally, I'm working from home. I've only been out to pick up my groceries (I order online and the workers load it in my trunk - nice service) and to pick up carry out from restaurants, as I am trying to support local small businesses. There aren't a bunch of people out. I want to grab dinner yesterday, and I did see more people taking a walk or riding their bikes than usual.

      4 months ago