I'm sorry for your experience with this part of the journey. It probably doesn't help, but a friend of mine was diagnosed with breast cancer and her husband asked, "you don't think I'm driving back and forth to the doctor, do you"? I would like to have him switch places with her.
I hope you work your way through this, no easy answers, maybe some of the Ladies on the site will come through with help for you.
Best of luck to you, let us know if we can help you here.