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      SueRae1

      Contact the social worker at the hospital/center where your father is being treated and find out what services he qualifies for. I know in NYC cancer patients can get free cleaning services, meals delivered, etc. Also see if you can get him to see a therapist that specializes in treating cancer patients. It sounds like your dad is depressed. Also find a support group and/or therapist for yourself. You need to take care of yourself.

      Being a caregiver is one of the hardest jobs in the world. Do you have any family or relatives who can help support you and your father. Someone who can come and stay with him so you can get away for a well deserved long week-end if not more time.

      Best of luck.

      almost 4 years ago
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      gwendolyn

      Maintain your sanity by doing those things that give you relief, like going out, etc. Consider that your father, like any person going through chemo, feels like XXX mentally and physically. It's understandable that he doesn't care about his appearance or housekeeping. If you don't have the time or energy to do the housework yourself consider getting outside help. If you think your father would enjoy getting out or having visitors encourage him to do so and he may start making more efforts about his appearance.

      almost 4 years ago
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      ogtxaggiemom

      He is depressed...my husband is too, and one of the signs is they do not keep up with their looks. They don't shower or shave for days. I know what you are going thru and it is hard on you too. Just remember these might be their last days...spend some time each day talking to him about the past. I find if I bring up subjects about our travels, or how he was raised or any fond memories it gets him back on track to handle this journey. I am a half glass full person and my husband is a half glass empty person so I know how hard it can be. Keep your chin up and when things get tough then take a break...just thirty minutes can make all the difference. Watering the lawn is good for me...some people like to take a bath....water is soothing thing. I am lifting you up in my prayers...

      almost 4 years ago
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