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    I sadly have come to the point where I no longer feel safe in expressing my feelings, comments or discussing my life choices on WN and have come to the conclusion that this has ceased being the right place for me. Just as I pick my friends wisely and try to keep peaceful and positive energy around me, I seek to replicate that in my online social media and support groups as well. I do have quite strong opinions on a variety of things and voice them in other places where i feel the settings are more appropriate and I will have conversations with people with whom I don't always agree with, but do so in a proper place and time for that type of communication. As many of you know, I recently took a short break to try to gain a better perspective but even that caused a lot of drama and I hate drama.

    In the beginning of this frightening journey for me with cancer, this site and many of you were my rock and my lifesaver during those first few months after my diagnosis and I have tried to give back to this community to the best of my ability. I came to WN to get information, share experiences and give support. I'm finding that I'm now dreading reading comments on WN not knowing whether I'll be supported, attacked or belittled for what I choose to do with my life. Adults often disagree and that's ok, but I firmly believe that attacking another on this site for their choices or opinions crosses the line of civility. I don't believe I should have to defend what I do or share, it's just information that people can use or ignore.

    I've gotten so much good from so many of you for more than a year and its meant the world to me. But lately, much of what I've shared has turned into arguments and caused negative reactions that in turn has caused me unneeded and unwanted distress. Many of you have come to mean a lot to me. I do so appreciate the support you've shown me, the advice readily given and the concern and love you've offered.

    I truly believe that our mental health is just as important as our physical health and it is for that reason that I am permanently leaving WN. If any of you care to stay in touch with me in a supportive way, you can find me on FB with the last name of Mello (or if that gets edited out, I'm the only Sharlie in Golden, Colorado). I'm seeking out groups on FB and elsewhere that are supportive of natural/alternative healing protocols as that is something I need as I seek to broaden my knowledge base. I'm loving my life and have always been at peace with my decisions. I will miss many of you, hearing how you're doing and being able to offer whatever support I've been able to give. Being supportive and encouraging have always been a big part of who I am, I feel it's a gift I've been given to share with others. But I can't do it at the expense of my own emotional well-being. I will be asking Greg to delete my account completely and I will not respond to any messages to this thread or anything on my wall...which should soon no longer exist. Please know that you will remain in my heart and my prayers and that I wish you much joy and peace.

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      Bug

      Gosh, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm sorry you have been hurt. Please take care. Very best wishes to you.

      about 3 years ago
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      MyahsMom

      I hate to see you go but I understand your right to good mental health.

      about 3 years ago
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      CASSIEME1

      SHARLIE, DON'T LET ANYONE MAKE YOU FEEL THAT UNCOMFORTABLE. LIFE IS TOO SHORT. IF THEY DONT LIKE WHAT YOU SAY THAN THEY SHOULDN'T READ IT. OPINIONS ARE LIKE AAAAZZZZHOLE EVERYONE HAS THEM.MY OPINIONS ARE MINE. MY EXPERIENCES ARE MINE AND DIFFERENT FROM YOURS OR ANYONE ELSES.I DO ALSO WANT A BETTER QUALITY OF LIFE , I 2 ASK WHY, WHAT IF? WHY WE HAVE TOO SUFFER SO.? WHEN AND WILL THIS PAIN AND SUFFERING EVER STOP? IF DOCTORS , INSURANCES TREAT THE WHOLE PERSON ENTITY WOULD IT BE BETTER. BABY YOU PRAYER FOR THOSE KINDS OF PEOPLE AND KEEP ON PUSHING. I HURT DAILY EVEN WITH PAIN MEDS. I HAVE HAD SOME OF MY CO-WORKERS FAMILY MEMBERS TO HAVE CANCER SOME HAVE PASSED ON.CHURCH MEMBERS AND SPOUSES . NOW PEOPLE ARE SAYING TO ME " I DIDN'T KNOW THAT YOU WERE GOING THROUGH ALL OF THAT STUFF. NOW ITS CLOSE TO HOME THEY TRY TO MAKE IT A POINT TO HUG ME AND SAY SOMETHING TO ME.

      about 3 years ago
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    Sharlie wrote on meyati's wall

    Thinking of you and sending you lots of positive and healing energy.

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    Sharlie wrote on gonewest's wall

    Been think about you a lot this week. Just wanted to send you love, hugs and prayers.

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      gonewest

      Hi Sharlie!! Thanks so much for caring about us and love, hugs and prayers right back to you.

      about 3 years ago
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