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    Side Effects (Fatigue, depression, breast more sensitive than most so trying to keep part of it healed.)

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    Radiation (External radiation )

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    Procedure or Surgery (Lumpectomy): I am taking care of so many others, I have no time to rest and have to clean house. Teaching kids more chores, would love someone to take care of me.

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    Decision Point (What decision is the right one for treatment?)

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    Loss (Feelings of loss and fear of what cancer even entailed. Lose of one part of left breast. What would surgery and radiation be like? What will hormone pill do to me? ): Are there any alternative/complementary things I can do for free? (I was and still am on a VA disability pension for depression.) Will I be able to take care of my daughter who is 7 months pregnant, on bed rest at home and find out enough for her sweet little down's syndrome girl to be? I take care of daughter, a 12 year old grandson and 13 almost 14 year old granddaughter. Can I do this as fatigued as I am getting?

    My mom and dad died within last year and a half, there is only my sister and she doesn't like me and is mean to me. I have no one and don't want to stress my family I live with. I feel like I am losing my mind and memory.....what am I going to do?

    My granddaughter's best friend mom died last week. She was spending the night when at 5am the police came and told them the deaf mom and her sister got hit by a drunk driver. The mom was dead. My granddaughter and her friend heard the exact gory details. The funeral was this week on Tuesday.

    We never know when our time will come. I need to learn to quit stressing and enjoy now. Oh why does that seem so difficult?

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      GregP_WN

      I'm so sorry your having trouble like this. It's not fair that's for sure. I want to suggest that you ask this on the questions page. Not many people see our experiences page so not many will answer here. But everyone browses the questions page. Repost this there and you will get some answers on this.
      I hope you get something worked out.

      over 4 years ago
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      romylee06

      I'm sorry for your loss. Depending on your treatment, chemo is going to wipe you out! You are going to have to focus taking care of yourself. Do not hide this from your grand kids that you take care of. They are old enough to understand and pitch in and help. Create a plan for each of you. Divide the chores. Make a list whether be rotating or what each person is responsible for. You cannot do this alone!! I They are going to be scared and angry. Scared they may lose you. Be honest they are going to be your biggest support. Your daughter is going to have to get outside help if her insurance can cover it or if she has friends that can support her.

      All my family are 1900 miles away. I have my husband, but essentially I had to go through this alone. My stepfather died 2 months before I was diagnosed. You have a long journey ahead and you will need to dig down and figure out if you want to go through this? I know you battle depression. Try to find that place or object that makes you happy or brings joy to you and focus on that. You don't have to be strong, you just got to be.

      Also, if you haven't already contact local support groups for you and a teen group for your grand kids. Part of your cancer team should be a nurse or counselor that can help you with this. Find God!! Go to church!! Join a church!! Without God in your life this struggle is going to be hard for you and your family. Also do not focus on the what ifs. Focus on the now! Get rid of the negative people in your life. Empower yourself for you and your family. Just because you are disabled and battling depression doesn't mean you can allow yourself to be treated badly or dis respectfully.

      Also, there are volunteers that can help you clean house if the grand kids cannot and cook. And even grocery shop. Ask the cancer center to see if there are any programs out there especially locally.

      Good luck and may God Bless you and your family!! I will say a prayer for you.

      about 4 years ago
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    Oh No (I have breast cancer? No way!)