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    Loss (Fertility): Went to sperm bank today, found out that there's no chance of him having biological children...

    • mikecraycraft's Avatar

      Where are you in the journey when you went to the sperm bank? After surgery but before radiation/chemo or after treatments?

      about 10 years ago
    • TwoYoungPeople's Avatar

      I am SO sorry! We are facing that possibility. We didn't have time to bank sperm before his chemo began, therefore we very likely may not have the family we dream of having. It is so sad! i still believe, what will be- will be. If it is meant to happen, it will! Hope that you find peace and guidance with this! You are in my thoughts!

      over 9 years ago
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    Susan asked a questionTesticular Cancer

    How am I supposed to react?

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    • PastorDavis' Avatar

      As a survivor of testicular cancer I can tell you that anytime is a good time to cry. The questions you need to ask yourself are, "Why am I crying and who am I crying for?" It has been my experience that the people around me were worse off than I was and I was going through all the surgeries and the chemo. Your fiance will know if this is going to do him in, just ask him. If he says, "I don't know." then he probably doesn't want to tell you the truth. That is a toss up. As for not having biological children, well, for my wife of 18 years and I, that was probably a blessing in disguise. I am the pastor of a church now and our kids probably would have been a hindrance to our ministry. Preacher's kids tend to be more rebellious than other kids. I know that adopting isn't the same as having your own children but there are plenty of kids out there whose parents don't want them. Those children need love too. Should we ever get ahead financially, we hope to become foster parents and, someday, adopt.

      As for your Dad, the only thing I can say about his colon cancer is, is he saved? Does he know that Heaven will be his eternal home? If not, here is a link to our church website that will show both you and your family how they can be assured that Heaven will be their final home. http://www.bethelbaptistoflovelock.com/index.php?p=1_4_Are-You-Going-To-Heaven

      I am here to answer any more questions that you may have. Have a blessed day!

      about 9 years ago
    • CharlieM1126's Avatar

      To chime in on your question about how you're supposed to feel about never having biological children, I can tell you unless there are other physcial reasons for not being able to have children, testicular cancer may not automatically rule out the ability to have children. Many, many testicular cancer survivors go on to father children. We were told almost certain sterility after testicle removal and chemotherapy and were actually pregnant less than 4 years after diagnosis. I have read of many of families with testicular cancer survivors who have had children. It can and does happen, the odds are actually in your favor to have biological children so please don't rule that out due to the initial diagnosis.

      about 9 years ago
    • Crash's Avatar

      Well, of course you'll be supportive of your Dad and his efforts. I can't say too much to that, but you know what will help your husband feel better?

      The next time you find yourself standing beside him with any other adult, say to them, " I'm so glad he had that testicle removed, he was much too much of a man for me with both of them! At least now he'll let me sleep in some mornings."

      He'll love you even more for that. ;-)

      Try to not worry too much about not having kids. God knows what he's doing. If you adopt make sure you get a newborn.

      You'll pay for it. Don't worry about the debt. Bankruptcy beats death.

      It's a beautiful day here. How will you handle all of this? Find something beautiful and appreciate it.

      Chin up!

      almost 9 years ago
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    Oh No (Diagnosed): I don't understand why both my father and fiancee have been diagnosed with cancer this month. Why is this happening to me? How can I be strong for the both of them?