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    Teaberry asked a questionStomach Cancer

    Mom doesn't want food any more and Dad is not accepting this

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      cam32505

      It sounds like your father needs some counseling. It is hard to accept the end of life. At the end, my mother couldn't swallow, so they offered her a feeding tube, which she refused. She wanted to eat, but choked when she swallowed anything. If you father continues to harass your mother, it will prolong her agony. When the end is near, the dying person can't let go if the family is begging her to fight to survive.

      over 6 years ago
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      GregP_WN

      yes, it's terribly hard to do. And those of us that have to go through this with a loved one in the final stage of life may not understand the process. He may not understand that this is how it works, she is not going to eat and it's normal, he can't make her eat either. I'm sorry for your situation, I went through this with both Mom and Dad. I will say that hospice made the experience much easier, and our service explained this process and things happened just about in line with how they said it would. It eased my mind and fears about what I "thought" was going to happen.

      over 6 years ago
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      lilymadeline

      This is so hard, but usually people stop eating only on their last few days on earth....so please get on a plane and get out to see her as soon as you can because it sounds like she is ready to move on....and of course this is terribly hard on your father to accept and he needs you there as well! This is too much for a hospice nurse and one confused and angry spouse...do you have any other family members or do they have close friends nearby? Take care and god bless!

      over 6 years ago
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