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    Since my first post i have taken a trip to see my mom, she looks horrible, i drove 16 hours but i made a mends we put our past aside and just enjoyed each others company. She came to visit me for a few days and also visited others, while with others she told them she has 2 months to live and they can not do chemo until she gains weight. It doesn't look good but i at least feel better that we are not so estranged now.

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      I'm happy for you that you were able to make peace with your mom. You're both in our thoughts.

      over 4 years ago
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    My mom just got diagnosed with colorectal cancer and i have no idea how to feel or what to think.

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      IKickedIt

      First, I'm sorry that she has been diagnosed with cancer. Second, I was just declared "cancer-free" by my oncologist....I beat colon cancer! It can be done.

      The first few weeks after my diagnosis were the worst days of my life. It was a time of uncertainty since we knew nothing about colon cancer, didn't know how advanced the cancer was or what exactly was ahead. Once you all know what is in front of your family, it will be a bit easier.

      If you live close by, you can go with her to the doctors' appointments and take copious notes and keep all of that organized. Once she knows when she will be going in for surgery, you can help her plan who is going to be there to help during her recovery.

      But don't, however, have everything on your shoulders. You are going to need a break to continue living your life, too. You cannot stop your entire life for her. Help her build a support network....people who will help with the cleaning, shopping, cooking, driving.

      It was a difficult year, but fortunately, we were hoping and praying that it was only a temporary situation so we focused on being positive (especially for our children). I hope and pray that your mother's cancer is contained and that the doctors feel that it's curable. I was stage 3A with 2 of 26 lymph nodes (they didn't find that out until after surgery..the waiting was the worst!).

      It certainly won't be easy, but for me, it was a small price to pay to be rewarded with another 45 years with my family.

      Good luck and stay strong.

      over 4 years ago
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      Thank you for your message it has helped. My mom has no support system, she chose drugs over her family. I am 28 and have had custody of my sister who is (13) for 4 years and my relationship with my mom has been very minimal since taking custody away from her and my dad. I am torn between trying to be there for her and all my baggage with her. She is my mom and i will be there for her when i can. We are over 800 miles away from each other as well. On top of me taking this all in, im trying to make my sister understand what all is going on too. My mom is in surgery now and its killing me not knowing if its going okay or not.

      over 4 years ago
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      IKickedIt

      How did your mom's surgery go? How are you holding up?

      over 4 years ago
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