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    I've been going out in public more and I have experienced many people I don't know asking "Why do you wear that bandanna?" or "Do you have cancer?" I guess I would rather have them ask me directly than whisper behind my back HOWEVER......The last thing I want to do when I go out to escape and forget this illness, is have a 20 min conversation with a stranger about how every person they know with cancer.

    Am I wrong or rude for wanting to just say..."Do you really think this is what I want to talk about with a stranger in a public place when I'm obviously out with friends? Have some respect and just say 'good luck'" I'm sure it's just their being uncomfortable but it really offends me to the point where I just want to go right back home.

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      attypatty

      Dear Toughenough:
      I hear you - I still get some of the same thing, even though my hair is growing back, enough to have some fringe stick out of my hats. But it's kind of like being pregnant - everyone feels free somehow to come up and pat you on the belly. I think it's human nature so I try not to take offense. I look 'em right in the eye and say, "I am in chemotherapy (now I can say I just finished chemotherapy) so I certainly hope I don't have cancer - that's the whole point of going through this. Now isn't it a lovely day? I hope enjoy it as much I as do." That usually cuts off conversation or at least directed into a positive direction. There is nothing worse than standing there listening to third-hand horror stories. If someone insisted, I would just politely excuse myself and walk away. If someone was really rude, try this line: "Did you know that because I have had treatment, statistically, there is less chance that I have cancer in my body than you do."
      Fight On,
      Attypatty

      about 4 years ago
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    Second round of chemo starts today. TAXIL IS NOT my friend. My hair just started coming back too...... :'(

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      Agreed! I did taxil 5 days ago and the bone aching is so bad for me. Do you have that? It's like the worst arthritis pain ever. I've been taking pain pills just to get some relief....and I hate having to take pain pills.

      about 4 years ago
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    OK attypatty....Here is the video of the speech. Was extremely nervous and we were running late so I did cut a lot.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WklWjHPavM&list=PLE0B114FC3C84D7A8&feature=mh_lolz

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    Well Relay is complete and my speech was a success I guess. It felt good however I was suffering from HORRIBLE nausea and had to cut a lot out:,(. If your interested in seeing it msg me at doodle10869 at G mail and I'll be happy to share the link to YouTube.
    Thanks for the support.

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      attypatty

      I knew this would end up on YouTube! And you thought I was just being silly. Can you post the link here? If not, can you email it to me?
      Attypatty

      over 4 years ago
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    Thank you so much!!!!!