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    Decision Point (radiation or not): father doesn,t know if its a good choice or not. Feeling a lot of pain.

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      vandymom

      My father is 84. He has suffered with prostate cancer for 18 years. The small cell cancer has spread to his liver, back, thigh, and shoulder. He is in severe pain and does speak to us about living a great life and having no regrets. He just doesn't know if radiation is worth it with the side effects. He doesn't know if will just prolong the pain or ease it.

      over 3 years ago
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      There IS NO PROOF that Radiation will help... as a matter of fact, I went through it and had MORE SIDE AFFECT'S than I EVER could have thought!!!

      over 3 years ago
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      What type of Radiation is offered? what therapy course is being offered?

      Some have fewer side effects like Proton therapy. Radiation can have a profoundly good outcome at reducing pain. Like the spots you have mentioned in the back and bones.

      To be honest if its his time and the cancer is in his liver thisis the area that causes the least discomfort and can have the biggest impact on survival meaning if he can reduce the pain everywhere else and the cancer only grows in the liver he can have a very good end of life without pain.

      over 3 years ago
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    I'm stressed tense and exhausted. I was told today to call the commission on aging to help me care for both my parents. Problem is my father has such pride he doesn't want outsiders in to aid him. My mother does not have cancer as my father does but she has Alzheimer's and has fallen twice this week. My question is how do I get him to let me bring in an outside source when I can't be there? I have 2 very active teens that need their mom's support too but his cancer is terminal and I want him to be happy and I don't want to upset him.

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      GregP_WN

      I went through this with both parents and now my MIL. It's a tough one if they are hard headed and wont' bend to let you help. I basically just told them that I was taking over, and this is the way it's going to be from now on, and I handled it. It works if they see that your serious and you are taking over, but if they won't give in, then there is really not much you can force them to do. It's a tough situation for sure. I hope you get it worked out.

      about 4 years ago
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    Side Effects (Rash): Not bad for side effects. Couple mouth sores, little rash, and protein level a little low.

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    Drug or Chemo Therapy (Chemotherapy): First treatment went well. 3 weeks and back we go.

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    Decision Point (treatment or not. ): They said there isn't that can be done except make him comfortable and hope to have him here for a year.