Coping With Change - Colorectal Cancer – Jayme W



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My suggestions for coping with cancer and changes related to cancer is to be open, to be honest, let your friends and family know how you're feeling. Both physically, emotionally, let them in, let them help you. I know that for me that was the thing probably that I didn't do that I should have done. It’s one of the regrets I have, was that I didn't let my friends and family maybe in as much as I should have. I didn't let them help me and they wanted to. I had a student who begged me, begged me constantly, let me come to your house and clean, let me be the person that takes your garbage to the curb, you know, let me do something and I always told her no, and I think I really took something important away from her. She wanted to do something to help. She kind of felt helpless, and so don’t deny your friends and family the opportunity to do something because as helpless and you feel right now, they feel even more helpless. The fact of the matter is that you're going through treatment, you know how you feel and you know, that's okay; but for them, it’s really, really scary. They don’t know how you feel, and if you don’t tell them, or if you just always tell them that it’s okay - I feel okay - I feel fine, they feel shut out. They feel like they’re missing an opportunity to help you, and they feel like maybe they aren't going to be able to do what they need to do. And for me, I denied my friends and family that opportunity, and I’m really sorry about that. So if the opportunity comes along and your friends and family want to help you out, then be open, be honest, and let them help you to the degree that you feel comfortable with. You're definitely going to be tested; you're going to be pushed. You're going to have to deal with things that you never imagined you were going to have to deal with. You're going to find out that you're a lot stronger than you ever thought you were. You're going to find out that hey, oh my gosh, I can deal with this, I am so totally capable of dealing with this, and then after treatment, everything else that comes along, it’s just gravy. In order to get through the changes that I went through in my treatment, in my life, I just kind of did what I always do and that's just turn and give it to God. You know, it’s a practice that I’ve done for many years now, at the beginning of every school year, I learned a long time ago somewhere along the line, in a Bible study, in a sermon, I don’t know where, but you know, give it to God. And so at the beginning of every school year, I always say a little prayer and give it to God; I give my school year to God so when I get my diagnosis, that was one of the first things I did. I just turned it over and I gave it to God and knowing that I had done that and he was in control for me, as a person who you know, sees their faith as a big part of their life, I was very comfortable in doing that. So if that is something that you're comfortable doing, nail that to the cross. That's in your life; lay it on the altar, whatever you're comfortable with doing. Give it over to God and he’ll take care of you.